On Transitions

Hubs starts a new job on April 2 and he’s meeting the new chapter of his career with a mix of joy, relief and trepidation. The job he is leaving he has been at since May 2004. Yup, right after he graduated with his degree. It was his first job after University. And now, it’s time to move on. We always knew at some point he would be leaving much go on to much bigger and better things but the circumstances that surrounded his leaving were less than desirable. But again, it was also time to move on. The less than desirable circumstance was just the straw that broke the camels back if you will. It finally lit the necessary fire under Hubs to get out of there. He’s happier for having gotten out. Much happier. He’s blissful almost. It was time to move on. But we never realized how hard this transition would be on not only us but on other people. 

This morning I cried privately at the thought of no longer visiting Hubs in his office or knowing what’s going on there. I’ve just barely gotten use to the fact that my father no longer works there (it’s only taken 8 month) but now to have Hubs leave there too is a little hard to swallow. The Administrative Assistant LM  is going to miss hubs like there is no tomorrow I’m told. She’s been with his place of work since September 2004 and she’s very motherly towards Hubs. Apparently he reminds her of her son at times. She called me this morning to ask about an appropriate gift for him. I told her that he was a little apprehenvise about leaving but we both agree this was for the best and that his new job will do wonderful things for his career. A lot of the people that he works with have been a nice cirlce of friends to us. A pseudo family really. Many of them were at our wedding last July. We’ve celebrated weddings, births and mourned losses with these people. We have sipped coffee, guinness and broken bread with these people many many many times. It will be a hard transition for all of us. There will be one less person at coffee break in the morning.

A lot of these people were very welcoming to me when my father first started as the director there as well. Yes, my father was Hubses boss. I was in  my first year of University and they were really warm and genuine. They accepted me as hubses wife as well though giggled at jokes about marrying his bosses daughter. Some of these people have been friends with Hubs since their first year of University. And like Hub went on to get jobs at the university right after graduation. We have a feeling these people will continue to play a role in our lives. Life wouldn’t be the same without them.

Tonight we clean out his office. Our goofy wedding portrait will be packed up along with his class pin up girl picture and his art deco concert poster for a band I can never remember the name of. Statler and Waldorf that came home with me from England will have to find a new home along with the BIG rubber rat that was given to HUBS when my Father left. Tomorrow morning there will be cake for Hubs and a gift and I was asked to attend.  Apparently LM said it wouldn’t be a YAY Hubs party with out me because it’s truly a YAY for me and Hubs. I’ll have to remember to bring my camera.

This is one of the first major transistions that has occured in our marriage. We don’t count me moving out of my parents house as happening during our marriage as it was because of our marriage I moved out. A by product of marriage if you will. Hubs will no longer be walking to work. Instead he’ll be working across the street from me. Rather than on the other side of town. He’ll have a whole new set of responsibilities though in the same field. There will be a steep learning curve. But he’s excited about that. Though I know deep down inside he’s going to miss his current job. And it will mostly be because of the people.

“Nothing is secure but life, transition, the energizing spirit.” – Emerson

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