On Trusting

Recently, as in days ago recently, an issue of trust came up between me and the Lover. He has some very bad habits which he is working hard to break. One of these habits is lying, the other is very offensive to my sensibilities and to my womanhood. I am a feminist, however, I do not care if one wants to say that pornography is very liberating and very feminist and a woman should not care if her lover looks at it, views it or uses it. It is not a feminist thing. It is disgusting. I don’t care if it is a natural and hairy hippy girl or if it is an air brushed, Brazillian waxed bombshell with breasts out to there. It is all, again for the cheap seats, ALL degrading to women. Not only is is degrading to womanhood, it is a lie. It is a lie in and of itself, it is a lie because it will cause you to lie to your lover. It is a lie because it will cause you to forsake your lover for some other notion. It is a lie because it can lead to so much worse….in our case it nearly did.

Don’t lie to your lover. It honestly, as my friend put it, feels like you are being kicked in the heart. Why would you do that to someone you love and care for and make love to and share a life with? Stop it.

To fill you in on what has happened since. He has come clean with all his lying behaviours. We have made resolutions together to aid in curtailing this lasciviousness.

I am not a prude by any stretch, but there are some things I cannot and will not tolerate. Lying and pornography are two of them and really they are one in the same.